People Who Like To Be Alone Have These 10+
Special Personality Traits
We all know a loner.
They tend to enjoy spending as much time on their own as they can. Of
course, they do have friends. It's not that they dislike people. They just
have less of a need for peer acceptance than most. Often, loners have
large groups of friends and have a higher standard for their friendships.
But still, many loners
make the conscious decision to get plenty of time on their own. Why?
According to a psychologist at Wellesley College, it's because they don't
"Some people simply have a low need for
affiliation," says Jonathan Cheek. "There's a big subdivision between the
loner-by-preference and the enforced loner.
Those who choose the
living room over the ballroom may have inherited their temperament," Cheek
says. "Or a penchant for solitude could reflect a mix of innate tendencies
and experiences such as not having many friends as a child or growing up
in a family that values privacy." Of course, it's possible to be too much
of a loner. Some loners close their borders, so to speak, because of
anxiety. Some are pathologically shy.
Some have had bad
experiences as kids. These types of loners tend to get butterflies around
people. Social isolation can even be a health risk. "Loneliness is like
hunger and thirst—a signal to help your genes survive," says John Cacioppo,
a psychologist at the University of Chicago. "When you're lonely, there's
a stress response in your body, and it's not healthy to sustain that for a
Of course, it takes all kinds, and loners tend
to be smarter, more loyal friends. If you have an outgoing friend who
abruptly becomes a loner, that may be cause for concern. What do you
think? Are you a loner? Here are 10+ special personality traits of people
who like to be alone:
1. Value Time
If there is anything
extremely important to a loner, it is their time. They respect and value
time more than anything else. They are well aware time is the most
valuable asset to a successful life. They will do everything in their
power to not be late, never waste someone else's time, and will never
allow someone to waste their time. They avoid fake behavior and cannot
tolerate people that think they can be played with. Through their
self-awareness, they have developed a huge level of self-respect. Respect
their time as they respect yours, and you can expect one of the most
incredible friendships imaginable.
Many people choose to
ignore their thoughts and emotions. Loners choose to embrace these
feelings and become fully aware of them. Self-awareness is very important
and difficult to achieve.
Loners know themselves better than anyone else,
and this allows them to understand those around them better. Everyone has
periods of depressive and discouraging thoughts, but loners are able to
navigate through them.
Loners are amazingly
strong willed when tough situations come their way. They have incredible
focus and will power as a result of their frequent reflection and alone
time. They can feel overwhelmed by stressful situations, but instead of
getting caught up with distractions, they decide to spend some time alone
and recharge. During this time, they devise solutions to their problems
and ways to cope.
Even though they like
being alone, this does not make them rigid and close-minded. On the
contrary, they are extremely open-minded and are always up for new idea
and activities. They don't plan to spend their entire lives in their
bedroom. They enjoy exploring and going on new adventures. However, you'll
need to make sure you give them their alone time before going anywhere
that involves several people.
Loners do not crave
the company of others; however, this does not mean they don't have
friends. Once they get to like someone and want to be your friend, they
will be one of the most loyal friends on the planet. They know their value
and worth. They exercise loyalty in all fields of life. Relationships,
work, family, you name it.
6. Clear Boundaries
Loners always have
healthy boundaries. They understand themselves perfectly. They have strong
value. They never feel alone. They know they always have themselves. They
will respect your boundaries and will let you know if you are about to
cross theirs. In the end, if you can't be faithful to yourself, you cannot
be faithful to anyone.
7. Aware Of Their
Loners are more than
aware of what their weaknesses and strengths are. However, they know that
there is always room to improve no matter how good they think they're
doing. Regardless of being self aware with these imperfections, they still
hold their heads high to show others that it is okay to be confident with
who you are.
8. Very Empathetic
They also tend to be
some of the most empathetic people in the entire world. They are able to
feel and sympathize with others on the same level as they are. It is a
very intense curse to have when you are able to feel everyone else's
sorrow or despair. However, since they are so empathetic, it is easy for
them to find the bright side in almost any negative circumstance. They
would rather find a resolution to whatever conflict is making their
9. No One Is Perfect
Mentioned before about
knowing their weaknesses and strengths, loners know that no one is
absolutely one hundred percent perfect. We all have our own flaws and ways
to improve on, however, they know it is better to just go with the flow.
They do what they feel is right for themselves and for others and make
sure that they address each flaw within themselves with honesty and how
they can maybe improve on some of those imperfections.
10. Guided By
Your intuition is your constant guide through
life, leading you to the next best thing that awaits you on your long
journey of growing up. There is a lot that can be said about you and your
gut instincts when it comes to making tough decisions. You don't get
scared easily because you know that your intuition will lead you somewhere
just as amazing as the last adventure you had.
11. Never Codependent
There is never a time
in your life where you feel as if you need to depend on someone else for
anything at all. You prefer to be your own person, even if you are in a
relationship with someone else you still prefer to do things your own way.
Being dependent on someone else for trivial needs is something you try to
avoid and will go great lengths to show others just how capable you are
being on your own.
12. Filled With
Kindness And Compassion
You love to
demonstrate the meaning of compassion as well as kindness to others so
that they can understand that spreading love is a necessary piece of your
existence. Showing others just how passionate are with the things that you
love to do most as well as being with the people that you love most. This
is one of the best qualities to a personality that not everyone gets to
13. Extremely Courageous
You are a person who
exudes confidence and that confidence makes you extremely desirable to
everyone else. There is a certain glow about your personality that brings
out the best in others that they look up to your courage with inspiration
in their eye's. This goes hand in hand with you being one of the best role
models is because of how courageous you really are. There isn't a single
challenge or adversity that you will not face down yourself.
Even with the bad
times in life you still find a way to love yourself no matter what happens
course you know that there will be times where you aren't as perfect,
ready, or experienced yet to do some of the things you'd really like to
do, however, you still love every piece of you regardless. There will
always be room to improve and that means that you are going to work really
hard for that success. You are an extremely unique individual if you
possess any of these qualities to your personality. Though there are many
others, these ones stand out the most when others are looking for a
Flakiness is often a
trait that nobody desires. I used to be extremely flaky, always making
plans just to break plans. But then I realized how that made me look.
People with integrity make sure others know that they stand by their word.
If they make a promise, you can be sure that they will follow through.
16. Emotional Strength
They're typically used
to relying on themselves if they enjoy a solitary life. They fight and win
their own battles. It may seem a little intimidating to you at first.
Don't let it put you off though. Why would you want to be with an
emotionally weak person?
17. Moral Compass
People with integrity
are a bully's worst nightmare. They don't put up with insults or degrading
language, and are known to stand up for people who can't defend
themselves. Their moral compass is precise; they know what's right and
what is wrong, and have a deep conviction for balanced justice.